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Shea Davis

Shea Davis, AMFT

Retreat Therapist for Neurodivergent Couples and Individuals

The most important work often begins in the quiet spaces—away from the daily noise.

At the Neurodiverse Retreat, I help individuals and couples step out of the cycle of survival and into a space where real clarity, healing, and connection can emerge.

My Story: A Long-Term Neurodiverse Marriage

For 24 years, I was married to a neurodivergent partner.

 

Our relationship was filled with love, loyalty, and shared dreams—but also constant misattunement. We lived in the tension of deep connection and ongoing misunderstanding.

 

I would crave emotional closeness, while he would seek logic and space. I longed to be seen, but often felt alone.

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That push-pull dynamic left me questioning myself and carrying more than my share of the emotional labor. It also fueled my passion to understand what was really going on beneath the surface.

 

Eventually, it led me not only to personal recovery, but to becoming a therapist who now supports others navigating the same terrain.

My Story Continued

Parenting a Neurodivergent Child

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As a mother of two—now adults—one of whom is neurodivergent, I know what it means to parent a child who doesn’t fit traditional molds. I spent years advocating, decoding, co-regulating, and adjusting my expectations—not out of resignation, but out of love.

That experience has shaped the compassion and realism I bring to my work.
 

Recovery from Addiction and Trauma
 

Years ago, I walked into a 12-step meeting emotionally depleted and spiritually broken. Recovery taught me how to set boundaries, own my story, and build relationships rooted in mutual safety.

I now walk alongside clients through their own versions of collapse and rebuilding—with a deep respect for the courage it takes to begin again.
 

Life After Betrayal and Emotional Neglect
 

I’ve lived through betrayal, emotional neglect, and the slow unraveling of a marriage that looked fine on the outside but was filled with unspoken pain. I’ve also experienced the hope and resilience that come from starting over. That duality—grief and growth—lives in every retreat I facilitate.

Retreat Work with Neurodiverse Couples

I believe that starting your therapeutic journey with extended, focused time together sets the tone for everything that follows. 
 

That’s why I lead virtual weekend retreats—typically 2 hours on Friday, 2 hours on Saturday, and 2 hours on Sunday—to give couples the space and structure they need to really go deep.
 

These retreats aren’t rushed. They’re designed to slow everything down, so you can move out of reactive patterns and into meaningful connection.


In this immersive format, I help neurodiverse couples:
 

  • Step outside day-to-day stressors and focus solely on your relationship

  • Understand how your neurology shapes communication, regulation, and emotional safety

  • Learn to move from blame and shutdown into curiosity and structure

  • Begin to rebuild trust, clarity, and shared direction
     

This isn't about cramming in a bunch of tools—it’s about laying a solid foundation so that future work, whether ongoing therapy or independent growth, has somewhere stable to stand. I do this because I want to make sure couples get on the right track from the very beginning.
 

My approach blends Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Internal Family Systems (IFS), trauma-informed care, and polyvagal theory. The retreat becomes a safe, structured container where change becomes not only possible—but sustainable.

Individual Retreat Support

Not every journey begins as a couple.

Sometimes, one person is ready to do the work and the other isn’t—or can’t. If that’s where you are, the retreat space still offers tremendous value.

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I work with individuals in these immersive weekends to:
 

  • Reconnect with their voice and intuition after chronic self-doubt

  • Explore the impact of past relational trauma or masking

  • Clarify personal needs, limits, and values in an emotionally safe setting

  • Identify what healing looks like—whether that involves staying, separating, or reclaiming your inner foundation
     

Whether you come solo or together, the retreat format offers a reset—away from chaos, toward clarity.

Addiction, Recovery, and Neurodivergence

For some, addiction becomes a strategy to survive constant sensory input, emotional misattunement, or the fatigue of masking.

I’ve lived that reality. I understand what it means to self-soothe in unsustainable ways—and what it takes to stop.
 

During retreats, I help clients:
 

  • Name and explore the root causes of compulsive or avoidant behaviors

  • Use nervous system-informed tools for regulation and emotional presence

  • Break cycles of shame and build new patterns rooted in self-trust

  • Embrace both recovery and neurodivergence without apology
     

This is a space where complexity is honored—and healing is absolutely possible.

What I Bring to Retreat Work

I bring lived experience—as a partner, a parent, and a person in recovery.

I bring clinical expertise in relational repair, trauma recovery, and neurodivergence. But most of all, I bring the belief that giving your relationship—or your inner world—this kind of time and space can be a turning point.

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If you’re ready to pause, reflect, and reconnect with yourself or your partner, I’d be honored to guide the process.

The retreat is not the whole journey—but it can be the right beginning.

License & Modalities

Therapeutic lens:
 

  • Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)
     

  • Internal Family Systems (IFS)
     

  • Polyvagal theory
     

  • Trauma-informed care
     

  • Gottman Method

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